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Work with me LIVE one-on-one in Chicago I will be in Chicago for three days only.  Book a one-on-one session in downtown Chicago by clicking here for one of the following session: Saturday, June 21 at 11 am Saturday, June 21 at 1pm sold Saturday, June 21 at 3pm Sunday, June 22 at 11 am Monday June 23 […]

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How to Turn a First Date into a Second Date

How to move from a first date to a second date

As I look out of my living room window, much of what I see is a construction site.  The condo that is being built next to my apartment is rising rapidly.  No longer visible is the building’s foundation that construction workers lay for many weeks.  Having suffered through many loud weeks, I can tell you […]

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Should Men Really Be Paying for the First Date?

Who pays for the first date?

I was in a rough streak of first dates that I didn’t enjoy.  No attraction, no chemistry.  Trying to turn around my fortunes, I asked out a woman who had nothing in common with me.  I was desperate to break my bad luck.  So I asked her out for drinks on a Sunday night at 8 […]

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Make Your First Date into a Momentum Builder

Build first date momentum by keeping it short, sweet and simple

As I was developing my personal philosophy about all things dating, emails landed in my inbox with subject lines that read, “I just had the most amazing first date!”  I was excited to hear about my current and former coaching clients having dating success.  So I replied, “Great!  Tell me about it.  What made it […]

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How to Avoid This Huge Mistake

The importance of having fun

Let’s talk about the hour before a first date.  You know, the time when you’re getting dressed, combing your hair and getting ready to head out the door. How do you feel in those minutes before your first date? Rarely is anyone calm or indifferent.  Most people fall somewhere on the continuum of nervous to excited. […]

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[Announcement] Make Some Money Participating in an Autism & Online Dating Safety Study

Surfing Safely Be an important part of a study at investigating online dating skills in individuals with autism spectrum disorder! Have you been diagnosed with an Autism Spectrum Disorder, such as Asperger’s Syndrome? Do you use online dating websites? Are you considering using online dating websites? Are you interested in online dating? Are you between the […]

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3 Things You Need to Know About Phones and Dating

Your phone can make or break a relationship

What do these three statements have in common? “Rest thirty minutes after eating before going swimming.“ “Sear a steak to keep it juicy.“ “Wait at least two days before returning his/her phone call.“ They actually have two things in common.  All three statements are conventional wisdom and there is no science behind any of them. It […]

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Asking For a Date in 3 Steps

How to ask a man or woman on a date in 3 steps

When I was in high school, I had a friend who knew Kurt Vonnegut’s daughter, Lily. I met Lily once or twice back in the late ’90s. Fast forward to 2012. I was sitting in a hotel room in Miami, thinking about things to write to you about. The New York Times Weddings/Celebrations secion is […]

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Enjoy A Neurodiverse Valentine’s Day! Lessons On Love Linger In The Not-So-Typical

A wonderful and heartfelt piece about autism and dating by my friend Tsara Shelton.  Click here to read it.

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Are You Liked? How to Tell When Someone is Interested in You.

How to know if a woman or woman is interested in you.

As you may know, I run a dating workshop at Adaptations.  Every semester, I ask my participants what topics they want to cover.  Every semester, my participants want to discuss the same topic:  How can I tell if someone likes me? It isn’t just a people with autism, ADHD, learning disabilities and other neurodiverse diagnoses asking […]

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Escape the “Friend Zone” by Breaking this Big Barrier to Romance

Escape "friend zone" & break the touch barrier

  One of my favorite cooking show of all time was Good Eats, starring Alton Brown.  What I loved about Good Eats was that Alton not only taught me recipes, he also delved into the science behind the recipes.  Now I can sear a steak while geeking-out about the Mallaird Reaction. When I started Hitchcraft, I wanted to be the […]

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The Top 3 Reasons to Smile

Dale Carnegie's reasons to smile

This article is a tribute to Dale Carnegie, the author of the timeless book How To Win Friends and Influence People.  Before I landed my first seminar or my first client, I read everything I could find that explained what made people attracted to each other.  Dale Carnegie’s book was my favorite.  (Eternal thanks to my […]

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Two Exercises to Improve Your Eye Contact Skills

Exercises for improving your eye contact

As I walked into my apartment building’s elevator, my mind was focused on writing an article — this article — about eye contact.   A new neighbor sprinted towards the elevator as the door closed.  I stuck my hand in front of the door sensor and she walked in.  We both looked at the wall. […]

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How to Make Your Arms and Legs Less Awkward

Body language of arms and legs

I was recently at a conference with an attractive keynote speaker.  She was dressed in an crisp business suit which sent the message that she earned the honor of speaking.  She also spoke eloquently which sent the message that she knew what she was talking about.  So what was the problem? Her problem was that […]

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