Do you feel bulletproof?

Do you feel bulletproof?

Feel like a million bucks

Let me share something personal with you.

One of my jobs is running dating workshops.  I get up in front of groups of people to give dating advice and teach dating skills.  Sometimes my audience is a group of complete strangers.

Have you ever stood up in front of a group of complete strangers?

Speaking to a group of complete strangers is totally different than talking to a group of friends.  Strangers aren’t quick to embrace you.  Their body language isn’t open and inviting.  Quite the opposite, in fact.  Complete strangers stare at you, waiting to be given what they came for.

Dating can feel much the same way.  It can make you feel like you’re under a microscope.


I have three choices every time I lead a dating workshop:

  • Let my nerves overwhelm me, then cancel the workshop
  • Let my nerves overwhelm me, then deliver a weak performance
  • Overcome my fears, and deliver an amazing workshop

I choose the third option each and every time.  I choose the third option because I learned how to overcome my fears.  I taught myself how to feel, what I call, bulletproof.

When you dive into dating, you have the same choices.  You can let your nerves overwhelm you or you can overcome your nerves.  You can let your potential partner see you sweat or you can give the impression that you are bulletproof.  Take a guess which is more likely to lead to lasting love.

Why do I use the word bulletproof?  Take two cops walking the streets of a tough neighborhood — one cop has bulletproof body armor under his or her uniform and the other does not.  Who walks the streets with more confidence?

I want you to feel like the cop walking the streets with body armor.  The feeling of being bulletproof will give you the confidence to meet more people and make you more attractive to your potential partners. 


Most people aren’t born feeling bulletproof.  In fact, just the opposite.  Most people feel vulnerable.

Your diagnosis may make you feel even more vulnerable than you otherwise would. Perhaps you are uncomfortable in social situations because you have trouble reading body language or facial expressions.  Maybe you have difficulty tracking or processing conversations.

It is no surprise, then, that dating makes you feel vulnerable.  I think that the process of bulletproofing yourself will help.

Are you skeptical of your own ability to feel bulletproof?  That’s okay, skepticism is normal.  You’re just having trouble imagining yourself as the more confident person you are working to become.  But keep working at it!

Bulletproofing is doable.

Bulletproofing will change the way you feel about yourself.

Bulletproofing will change the way others feel about you.

Bulletproofing will dramatically change your approach to dating.

So are you ready feel bulletproof?  The next couple chapters I sent you will get you started.

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Jeremy Hamburgh
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  1. Jeremy Hamburgh says:

    You’ll hear me say it a lot: a nice suit is my bulletproofing. Yesterday, my suit was a little dirty and I got a stain on my shirt. Do you know what? It affected how bulletproof I felt. It really did.

    I’m going to do better today. Clean shirt, freshly pressed suit. I’m going to feel like a million dollars.


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