The #1 Mistake You’re Making That Kills Conversation

The #1 Mistake You’re Making That Kills Conversation

Eliminating Small Talk Questions

Did you know that I co-founded a organization for young adults?  Yup, I did.  It is called B’nai Jeshurun Tze’irim 20s & 30s.  (I didn’t choose the name.)

As a founder of Tze’irim, I watched thousands of people meet each other at our events.  By my estimation, 95% of the conversations I overheard went nowhere.  Do you know why?  The answer is in this transcripts:

Guy:  Where are you from?
Girl:  New Jersey.
Guy:  Ok, cool.
Girl:  Where are you from?
Guy:  New York.
Girl:  Nice.
Guy:  Where do you work?
Girl:  At a restaurant.
Guy:  Interesting.
Girl:  Where do you work?
Guy:  At a movie theater.
Girl:  Cool.

SMALL TALK QUESTIONS ARE YOUR #1 CONVERSATION KILLING MISTAKE

What I hope you notice from the transcript is that two people, given no guidance, rely on Small Talk Questions to start a conversation.  They hope to find mutual interests before the conversation fizzles.  They hope to find a “spark.”  

Did you see a spark in that transcript?  I didn’t.  

By my estimation, Small Talk Questions lead to great conversations about 5% of the time; the other 95% of conversations are more like an awkward interview.  Awkward interviews aren’t attractive.  They don’t win you dates.  And, quite frankly, they aren’t fun for you, either.

What percentage of your conversations fall flat?  You can see my percentage in the Comments, below, where I ask you to share yours, too.

AIM TO BE MEMORABLE

Whoever your special someone turns out to be, he or she has met plenty of other single people before meeting you.  For some reason, he or she hasn’t “clicked” with those other people.  The big question for you is…

What are you going to do to be “The One”?  

You have to be different than all the people your special someone met before you.  You have to bring something to the relationship that nobody else has.  You have to be memorable.  And you can be.  I’m going to help you!

Good news:  You’re already starting to more memorable in a way that has nothing to do with your diagnosis.  After all, how many people besides you have Action Plans?  You’re getting an email from me tomorrow, and you’re going to want to have your Action Plan ready.  In the next article, you take a big step towards being “The One.”

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HELP RID THE WORLD OF SMALL TALK QUESTIONS

I mean it!  Help me rid the world of Small Talk Questions.  Together, let’s build a more interesting world.  All you have to do is share the idea…. Facebook Twitter Google+ LinkedIn StumbleUpon

QUICK REVIEW

  • If you act like all the other single people out there, you’ll be single just like them
  • Aim to be memorable by having great conversations
  • Go to the Comments, below, to find out my percentage of fizzled conversations and share your percentage
Jeremy Hamburgh
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