My Favorite Little Post-Date Trick

My Favorite Little Post-Date Trick

No matter who you are — male, female, gay, straight, neurotypical, or neurodiverse — the first date is a test of many skills.  Perhaps the hardest is ending the first date on a high note to give you momentum towards a second date. I want to share with you my favorite little post-date trick to […]

To Kiss or Not to Kiss? 4 First Date Scenarios

To Kiss or Not to Kiss?  4 First Date Scenarios

Clients ask me for advice about whether they should kiss on the first date and I can’t give them a simple answer.  There are a lot of people in this world and each person is comfortable moving a relationship forward at his or her own speed.  What is too fast for you may be agonizingly […]

Should Men Really Be Paying for the First Date?

Should Men Really Be Paying for the First Date?

I was in a rough streak of first dates that I didn’t enjoy.  No attraction, no chemistry.  Trying to turn around my fortunes, I asked out a woman who had nothing in common with me.  I was desperate to break my bad luck.  So I asked her out for drinks on a Sunday night at 8 […]

Make Your First Date into a Momentum Builder

Make Your First Date into a Momentum Builder

As I was developing my personal philosophy about all things dating, emails landed in my inbox with subject lines that read, “I just had the most amazing first date!”  I was excited to hear about my current and former coaching clients having dating success.  So I replied, “Great!  Tell me about it.  What made it […]

How to Avoid This Huge Mistake

How to Avoid This Huge Mistake

Let’s talk about the hour before a first date.  You know, the time when you’re getting dressed, combing your hair and getting ready to head out the door. How do you feel in those minutes before your first date? Rarely is anyone calm or indifferent.  Most people fall somewhere on the continuum of nervous to excited. […]

3 Things You Need to Know About Phones and Dating

3 Things You Need to Know About Phones and Dating

What do these three statements have in common? “Rest thirty minutes after eating before going swimming.“ “Sear a steak to keep it juicy.“ “Wait at least two days before returning his/her phone call.“ They actually have two things in common.  All three statements are conventional wisdom and there is no science behind any of them. It […]

Asking For a Date in 3 Steps

Asking For a Date in 3 Steps

When I was in high school, I had a friend who knew Kurt Vonnegut’s daughter, Lily. I met Lily once or twice back in the late ’90s. Fast forward to 2012. I was sitting in a hotel room in Miami, thinking about things to write to you about. The New York Times Weddings/Celebrations secion is […]

Are You Liked? How to Tell When Someone is Interested in You.

Are You Liked?  How to Tell When Someone is Interested in You.

As you may know, I run a dating workshop at Adaptations.  Every semester, I ask my participants what topics they want to cover.  Every semester, my participants want to discuss the same topic:  How can I tell if someone likes me? It isn’t just a people with autism, ADHD, learning disabilities and other neurodiverse diagnoses asking […]

Escape the “Friend Zone” by Breaking this Big Barrier to Romance

Escape the “Friend Zone” by Breaking this Big Barrier to Romance

  One of my favorite cooking show of all time was Good Eats, starring Alton Brown.  What I loved about Good Eats was that Alton not only taught me recipes, he also delved into the science behind the recipes.  Now I can sear a steak while geeking-out about the Mallaird Reaction. When I started Hitchcraft, I wanted to be the […]

The Top 3 Reasons to Smile

The Top 3 Reasons to Smile

This article is a tribute to Dale Carnegie, the author of the timeless book How To Win Friends and Influence People.  Before I landed my first seminar or my first client, I read everything I could find that explained what made people attracted to each other.  Dale Carnegie’s book was my favorite.  (Eternal thanks to my […]