7 Smart Strategies For Meeting Singles

7 Smart Strategies For Meeting Singles

7 smart strategies for meeting singles

A brand new client was sitting across from me at the cafe table.  She was petite, cute and well-dressed.  I soon found out she had a great job and a tight-knit family.  Despite being diagnosed with depression, I thought it was going to be easy to help her find love.

Then she said, “I think my dating life is a lost cause.  I don’t think that there are any good men out there.

Like in a movie, everything screeched to a halt.

As a dating coach, my job is to help frustrated people.  I can’t help people who have given up. Clearly, this woman was one bad date away from giving up on dating entirely.

Then I asked her, “Where have you been looking for your special someone?

She answered, “I put up an online dating profile and nothing happened.  I waited and waited and got nothing.  So here I am.

Again, the conversation came to a screeching halt.

Did she really think she was going to put up a mediocre online dating profile and find her special someone!?   Yes, she did.  And she was sorely mistaken.


Over the next couple weeks, you and I will cover 7 smart strategies for meeting singles.  I want you to give thought to each one, so I am going to write to you separately about each strategy.  I’ll give you the pros and cons of each, and then let you choose which strategies work for you.

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Don’t feel overwhelmed!  You don’t have to do all of seven strategies.  In fact, as you’ll see, I suggest you don’t.


I love the New York Times Weddings section, for two reasons:  First, our wedding was in it.  Second, it is a cheat sheet to how real people find love.  Read enough wedding announcements and you begin to see that people find love in seven ways.  In alphabetical order, they are:

  • Love networking – letting your friends and family find love for you.
  • Matchmakers
  • Multi-purposing events – finding love at non-dating events and activities
  • Online dating
  • Personals
  • Removing your blinders – finding love in your everyday surroundings
  • Singles events

Which are you doing now?  Which are you avoiding?  And most importantly, why?  Share your choices in the Comments, below.  (In the Comments, you can read how I was meeting women and how I met my wife, Lisa.)


This is what I told my new client whose dating strategy consisted exclusively of online dating:  There are  about 7.1 billion people in this world, of which 315,360,304 are American, of which about 40% are single.  Many of them are neurotypical and many of them are neurodiverse.  That is a lot of potential partners, and one or more of them may be your special someone.

How are you going to find your special someone in a world with so many people?  Your special someone may not be dating online or attending singles events or working with a matchmaker.  You should use two or three strategies to meet potential partners because that increases your opportunities you meet your special someone.

Why do I recommend two or three strategies?

Using one strategy is not enough.  That’s the double-down strategy of dating — an all-or-nothing strategy.  As some would say, it is putting all your eggs in one basket.

Using all seven strategies is too many.  You don’t have time to do them all and you can’t do them all well.

Using two or three strategies is perfect.  Maybe start by choosing two.  If you like both, stick with them.  If not, swap one out for a different strategy.

Don’t choose your strategy just yet though….

Write the name of all seven strategies down in your Action Plan.  Put each on a separate sheet of paper.  Over the next few emails we will cover the pros and cons of each of them.  Once you have made an educated decision about which strategies you’ll pursue, then you can start working on them.


…a recommendation.

Hitchcraft Dating has no advertising budget and no PR person.  You are the advertising.  You are the PR person.  If you love it, spread it….

Yesterday, one of our Villagers whom I met on Facebook said, “I want to help you spread the word but I have nobody to share it with.

I said, “You have over 200 friends on Facebook.  That is 200 people that have never heard of Hitchcraft Dating.  That’s more than enough!”  And I meant it.

If you’re on Facebook, please click the Facebook button, below.  If you’re on Twitter, do that.  If you’re on Google +, do that.  You get the idea.  Click ’em!

And, by the way, if you don’t love Hitchcraft Dating, just unsubscribe.  I’m not offended.


  • We will be covering 7 strategies for meeting potential partners
  • After learning about all 7 in the coming weeks, pick 2 or 3 strategies and do them well
  • Share in the Comments, below, what your strategy has been so
Jeremy Hamburgh
Happy dating,
Jeremy Hamburgh
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  1. Jeremy Hamburgh says:

    I met Lisa online using a no-longer existing service called Tribester. Before that, I was meeting women at synagogue and through friends. (And one on jury duty.)

    My friend told me to branch out into the world of online dating. I was reluctant because I thought that it was desperate to do that. I also didn’t want to use a big name dating site because I wasn’t serious about online dating. So I joined the niche site, Tribester.

    I sent Lisa the most witty email I could muster. It worked…sorta. She took her sweet time getting back to me. But the wait was worth it in the end!

  2. Andrew Young says:

    I’ve been using eHarmony off and on for the last 5 years. I got three first dates (two in 2009, one in 2010), but no second dates. I’ve also used Match.com, but haven’t met anyone there. I’ve been avoiding singles events because there are a lot of people there and I find it difficult to just walk up to someone I don’t know and introduce myself. I’ve also used Facebook to meet women.

    • Andrew,

      Thank you for sharing this. My big question to you, since I see that you are reading the Free Dating Guide, is What do you plan on doing differently so that you get different (and better) results?


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