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WHAT DO YOU MAKE?
That is a pretty bold question to ask, don’t you think? Which is exactly why I opened an email sent by the brilliant business mind, Seth Godin, with the same exact subject line. Seth, as you may imagine, was not asking me for my salary. He was easing me into the fact that what I make are decisions.
YOU ARE A DECISION MAKING MACHINE
Each day you decide whether to get out of bed or go back to sleep. You decide to go whether to work or sit on the couch. You decided whether to read this article rather or play Mindcraft (or maybe both at the same). Why? Because you are a Decision Making Machine.
I bet you never thought of yourself as a Decision Making Machine. I never did. I thought I was just doing “my thing.” But Seth made me realize that I had a choice: I can either go through life or make the life that I want. In other words, I can be passive about my future or actively shape it. I chose the latter.
Which have you chosen in the past? Which do you choose going forward?
NOT MAKING A DECISION IS ALSO A DECISION
The term “paralysis by analysis” is one of my favorites. I have a close family member (ahem, father) who is the consummate analyzer. No joke, when we were choosing what seats to buy at Yankee Stadium, my father insisted that we calculate the hypotenuse to determine which seats were physically closer to home plate. Then I had enough. My Decision Making Machinery kicked in and I told my father that we needed to choose seats before someone else took them.
Endless analysis is one way that you are guaranteed to get nothing done. You keep on planning how to reach your goal without ever taking a step towards achieving it. And then, at some point, it is too late to make a decision. You say to yourself, “Well, too late now. On to the next thing.”
Here is the thing: You made a decision. You made a decision not to make one. And, the result of your decision is that you made no progress.
MISSION POSSIBLE: YOUR ASSIGNMENT
I want you to dedicate two pages of your Action Plan to this assignment:
- Sheet 1: Make a list of the good decisions you have made in dating.
- Sheet 2: Make a list of the decisions you put off and shouldn’t have.
Which list is longer? Which list is keeping you back?